Are you communicating with Integrity?

This has become quite the topic of conversation recently with me. I am always amazed at how people would rather leave a relationship than communicate and how people talk about others without actually talking to them. I believe this is one of the most fundamental opportunities we can create for ourselves and our spiritual growth. My question posed to you is “are you communicating with integrity?”

Quite recently, I decided that I would create a contract with a potential relationship prospect. Discussing what was negotiable and non-negotiable to creating a successful relationship. Although, not necessarily a successful relationship, what was successful was that I really had to have adult communications and they were quite inspiring and empowering. Feeling vulnerable was quite freeing. I have never seen vulnerability as a weakness, but as a strength, and this was very much coming from a space of acceptance and love.

One of the big things about creating a contract was being very clear about what you truly desire, and what is negotiable and non-negotiable! Often we don’t really think about relationships from this place. And I encourage everyone, whether you are in a relationship or not, to consider what your soul desires from a partnership with another. Integrity and communication was on my non-negotiable list, as it will become even more important in the future. Whatever I need to make me feel safe to be vulnerable is also non-negotiable or at least something that requires a great deal of respect and communication.

One of the big things that this has been brought to my attention is having integrity about what we communicate towards one another. Are you your word? Can you honestly be clear and open while discussing your relationship requirements? I’m no longer going to be okay with not communicating my intentions and desires in a relationship. I want to have adult conversations; it reminds me of the Canadian television show “Being Erica” which I watched on Netflix. I was inspired by the actress Erica because she was being so exposed and vulnerable while communicating with her two serious relationships. I remembered thinking while watching it, that it would be excruciating to be so open. And yet, now I know that this is the only way to enter into and maintain a relationship.

Relationships clearly have become my main theme in my shows, especially with Victoria Lorient-Faibish and Jean Adrienne (maybe that was why I called it News for the Heart?). We have done some pretty inspiring shows lately. I recommend you listen in or go to the archives to hear them. However, in discussing integrity in communication, I encourage you to think about what this means to you.

The other issue that came up in the past month was that people were making decisions for me, and not actually talking with me, but talking about me. How many times has this happened to you? Where a boss, friend or lover has made a decision that affected you, but never discussed it with you? I am no longer okay with this happening in my life. To me, this lacks integrity and adult communication. And to be honest this includes all the time we make judgements and gossip about others, without actually making an attempt to talk with them!

This has become an important decision I have made about how to communicate with integrity. With all the changes that are occurring and support we have with the changes to our planet and the rising of our vibration, I believe that we all have to decide what is negotiable and non-negotiable with who we want to be and become! What is important to you? Take some time to reflect and observe your behaviour in relationship with others. Become conscious of where you are now in your relationships and where you would like to go. The change you seek is at your doorstep – it is time to open the door. Observe what you see with kindness and compassion. Know that you can shift your reality by taking responsibility for what is in your life and in your heart now and open to the possibilities that you dream of for yourself. Dreams really DO come true!

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Do you know the Power of Your Heart?

We have all heard sayings such as Home is where the Heart is and Follow your Heart. One of my favorite quotes is: “Our Heart carries the wings of our dreams and the desire to realize them” by Fernando Soave.

The heart has the power to deliver our dreams and has been the focus of my energy for several years. I have grown to understand and appreciate this power. Training and research has proven that my intuitive guidance on the power of the heart is as impressive as I had believed. I am participating in a Tele-summit RealitiesofCreation.com that begins September 8^th. We will publish a book (of which my chapter is all about the Power of the Heart) and we will be going on a cruise in April, 2015. For my part of the book, I have two purposes; one is to show all the research that has been done to help you understand the power of the heart; and how using this research to keep your heart clear and coherent you may have access to as much of the Heart Field as possible. Secondly, it is to offer you ways to access the power of the heart to create the dreams you desire in your life and align to your Soul’s Purpose!

‎The human Heart is now documented as the strongest generator of both electric and magnetic fields in the body. This is important, because we’ve always been taught that the brain is where all of the action is. Multiple Brain Integration Techniques from mBraining.com (research done through Grant Soosla) teaches that we have 3 brains (proven to date), our mind has 100 billion neurons, the gut brain has 500 million neurons (the same size as the brains of cats and dogs) and the heart has only 30,000-120,000 neurons. While the brain also has an electromagnetic field, it is relatively weak compared to the Heart. The Heart is about 100,000 times stronger electrically and up to 5,000 times stronger magnetically than the brain. This is important, because the physical world is made of these two fields: the electric and magnetic fields of Energy. Physics demonstrates that a change in our electromagnetic field produces atomic level transformation: as we change our energy, we change our state of matter and BEing, and moreover, everyone we encounter. We literally change that atom and its elements within our body and this world. The human Heart is designed to do this from an emotional state.

Heartmath.com teaches that our heart emits an electromagnetic field that changes in accordance to our emotions. The magnetic field can be measured several feet from the body. Positive emotions create physiological benefits in your body. You can boost your immune system by conjuring positive emotions. Negative emotions create a nervous system chaos where positive emotions do the opposite. The heart has a system of neurons that have both short and long term memory, and their signals sent to the brain can affect our emotional experience. Our heart sends more information to the brain than vice versa. Our positive emotions help the brain in creativity and innovative problem solving. Positive emotions increase the brain’s ability to make good decisions.

What does this mean? The implications are huge!

Research has shown that the heart sends powerful signals to the brain and rest of the body. Once understood and accessed, these heart signals give you more ability to self-regulate your emotions and nervous system and to make changes you thought you couldn’t make before. Throughout history, people have talked about the core values of the heart, which include love, care, appreciation, respect, compassion, kindness, forgiveness and non-judgment. These values and attitudes, which we call core heart feelings, generate the heart signals that bring more coherence to the body’s systems. When your initial effort is “from the heart,” it brings your mind and emotions into cooperative alignment, and this gives you more intuitive clarity to clear disturbances, and more strength and energy to achieve your goals. That’s why coaches say, “play from the heart” or “sing from the heart” or “put your heart into it.” Putting your heart into whatever you do gives more power, enjoyment and better results.

What interferes with our Heart’s inner power is stress. One of the largest positive impacts on stress is through our breath. If breath controls the heart, and heart produces our most powerful field generator, then breath becomes one of our most potent catalysts for changing our energy field.

In martial art, yoga, bodywork, counseling and coaching, we use a tool called entrainment (Heartmath calls Coherence): a technique for synchronizing and controlling cardiac rhythm by an external stimulus, in most cases, our own breath. As we breathe, so too does the entrained individual or group. As we change our breath, and entrain others to do so, we change the heart rhythm – the most powerful force in the human body.

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What keeps you up at night?

This month I went to Trudy Van Buskirk’s network meeting Women Entrepreneurs Building Businesses  in the Beach to meet up with author Suzan St Maur. It was a workshop on writing blogs. My favorite piece of advice was “what keeps your clients awake at night”. This is what I have pondered for the past few weeks.
For me it isn’t what keeps me up at night, but what wakes me up and keeps me up in the early hours of the morning.

When I think about you, my clients/friends, and myself, I know that financial problems keep us awake. Although, it isn’t so much the lack of funds as it is the bills!! We think about love, although, again not so much the wonderful things going on as much as the problems. I have had issues with PAIN, however, pain becomes a much bigger issue as well. There is physical pain, emotional pain, and mental stress. (It isn’t too often that we lie awake curious of our spiritual journey; although, that is a great conscious meditation.)

Physical pain can definitely keep you awake, but where does it come from? And why is it there? Emotional pain and mental stress are probably the biggest areas we fret about. That pretty much covers all relationships from our family, to our friends, to our colleagues and our romantic relationships.

I believe it is safe to say that what keeps us awake, is not loving matters, but fear! Fear seems to be the culprit if we want to give it one name. I’m sure there are times when we are excited about something, but if it keeps us awake, it is likely due to projecting fear of the unknown or anxiety about something; which again, is really just fear!

Our fears come in many different colors and names, but if you can take it down to one thing, and see the spectrum as love on one side and fear on the other, whatever you name it; it will ultimately be a fear. Anger, anxiety, stress, jealousy, doubt, frustration, depression, guilt, shame, grief, envy can all be seen as a fear, because they come from our experiences in our early childhood that created a core value or belief that fears something. It may be abandonment, feelings of unworthiness, being misunderstood, judged, rejected, powerless, feeling unsafe – the list goes on. Each of us has a unique belief that we have chosen to work on in this life and our experiences in our childhood set the tone for our repeated patterns.

I think what I would like for you to contemplate is what keeps you awake at night (or early morning hours)? I would like to assist you in these areas. I would like to guide you to see that your focus is on your fears, and how once you start worrying about something, you aren’t actually focused on the solution. And the middle of the night, will not allow you to solve anything. A great way that I have learned to find solutions is to write it, or think about it prior to going to bed and either allow my dreams or in the in-between hours (the time right before you fall asleep or right as you are waking up) answers come to you. At one of my lowest times, I decided that I had focused so much of my energy on my fears, that I used a new technique; I downloaded several series of books and decided that I would just read, instead of worrying. This did several things, it allowed me to delve into my imagination far better than movies or Netflix could ever do (they were large novels of approximately 1000 pages, so it would take me a day to finish each one and move onto the next, I didn’t have time to think about my problems); and it shifted my focus from worrying to an exciting journey; a journey that may have been somewhat predictable, but had many interesting twists. What it did was change my energy completely. Instead of being focused on what wasn’t working in my life, I was able to delve into someone else’s life! And because our imagination doesn’t know what is real it began to believe that I was no longer having financial difficulties, because all the books I was reading were of successful eccentric people and it shifted my emotions of lack to excitement.

These two suggestions have really helped me, reading straight for a couple of weeks is quite extreme, but I needed an extreme change in my life and way of thinking and this provided me with the shift. However, for most working on our dreams and using the in-between time will be effective and is how I discover my answers now. I can assist you to uncover your answers as well. This can happen through my intuitive guidance and through coaching to align our three brains, our gut is predominantly in charge of making us feel safe (an issue we often associate with fears). Let me know what keeps you awake at night!

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Can you tell the difference between fear and your gut intuition?

With Halloween just finished, I have been contemplating fear and intuition. We know that science has proven the existence of a neural network or brain associated with our gut. Gut intuition is about perseverance. Our gut will warn us when it needs to protect us. Our heart brain is all about love and compassion and our head brain can be quite creative. So our intuition here is often clear, because it has to do with love and acceptance or showing us some creative solutions to problems. However, when you get that feeling in your gut, how do you tell the difference between fear and intuition?

I have an example of just this, when I made an appointment last week for my muscle activation guru Josh Young. I set up an appointment earlier in the week and wasn’t thinking about the date when I made it. I also had a healing done prior that created a great deal of need to relax and re-energize for a few days. What day did I make the appointment for, you ask? Mercury has been retrograde since Oct 3^rd and we were in between 2 eclipses. Just as we were scheduled for our solar eclipse on Oct 23^rd and mercury was about to go direct on the 25^th, I booked an appointment for, yep you guessed it the 23^rd! Mercury is always worst right before and during when it goes retrograde and when it goes direct, throw in the solar eclipse and… BOOM!

The day of the 22^nd I considered cancelling my appointment because I wasn’t feeling very energetic. I wasn’t sure if it was my physical condition, my intuition or just apathy that was having me reconsider. When the day arrived, I still felt quite awful and my intuition was nudging me to cancel. However, I decided that my health was a priority and I was going ahead. Also, my phone only had 28% battery charge, even though this should last me half a day; I ignored my intuition again when I kept getting I should charge it before I left.

I took the subway there, as it was a pretty good route, but I planned to take advantage of my newly acquired membership with a car share program (car2go), for the way home. I knew after the treatment, I would just want to get home as quickly as I could to relax and rejuvenate, so I reserved the car in my area. After my appointment the car wasn’t where it was supposed to be. I spent 10-15 minutes trying to locate it, I found one in a different spot 5 levels lower but I couldn’t activate it (it was out of service). I called the company and spent a 15-20 minutes talking with them while trying to locate the car. As soon as I was back at the entrance, my intuition did tell me where it was; there was a lot across the street that although wasn’t a Green P parking lot, had a green sign and a green P in the sign. I got cut off from the company while exploring where the car was, as we were going further and further underground. I did finally locate it, but I had to call back to have the car put in service, as I had been the 4^th person to try and locate it. This would have been an ideal time to walk away and choose a new course of action, however I was invested in moving forward and I just wanted to get home.

At this point, my phone no longer had a battery charge and I got in the car, only to have my intuition tell me once again there was something wrong. I continued, ignoring my intuition for the 3^rd time that day. I quickly discovered that the radio wasn’t working (usually not a problem, except you need the radio to use the inboard call center). Within a few minutes my intuition was going on high alert, because the car just wasn’t feeling “right”. After about 10-12 minutes of driving, I unfortunately discovered why, I had a flat tire. So, now I’m stranded, in an area that is not close to anything, my phone isn’t working and neither is the inboard phone! So, I had to get out of the car, find a convenience store and plead to use their phone. Of course I get a newbie and he leaves me on the phone for over 25 minutes and I got kicked out of the store, completely stranded. I was too angry to think and ended walking home which took me 2 hours. All the great work of my treatment felt a waste as I was exhausted and in a lot of pain by the time I got home.

OK, now for the moral of the story! We have all had these kinds of crazy days that seem to just snowball no matter how much we try to salvage the developing situation. It is important to take the time to understand what was motivating our choices when these situations arise. However, it is just as important to let yourself off the hook! Judging yourself for the choices you make in life, especially when things go horribly wrong, won’t help. Learning to strengthen your ability to trust and honor your internal guidance systems can drastically improve the quality of your day to day life.

When I reflect on my crazy day I can see that I was trying to control this situation and not honoring my gut! I wasn’t centered while I was searching for a way to get home therefore ignoring my intuition because I was too attached to my original plan.

When we are in good form and something is off it is relatively easy to shift our day. However, when we aren’t feeling great and are in need of some TLC and our day takes a turn for the worse, this is when it is most important to make sure we have lots of tools at our disposal to turn things around. We need to come up with our own rituals for understanding and honoring our intuition, which can even include creating the space to just let things be until whatever is going on passes.

Learning to trust my intuition and remembering that my gut is a fierce warrior that deserves to be heard regardless of what it is saying is now important. I believe from now on I will connect in with my three brains for guidance when I am getting contradictory information. Taking the time to reflect on what was happening internally has given me the insight I need to completely shift my day next time things go wrong. What about you? What do you do when confronted with a crazy day?

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