Monday 23 February 2015

Present, Grounded and Balanced

During these interesting times, I find it increasingly important to be Present. Practicing mindfulness and being in the moment is always a great morning exercise to ensure you are ready to set your intentions for the day. Echkart Tolle suggests that you practice being present by becoming aware of your body and its responses or feelings. This means you can’t be in the “past”, thinking about past events or responses you could have, should have or would have, because then you aren’t aware and can’t be fully present. You also can’t be worrying about the future, financial worries, or what you will be “doing” because once again, you cannot be present and fully aware.

To be grounded, first you must be present in your mind and body and from that place of inner balance, connect in with the earth.  Lately, this seems to be a great topic for my shows; I had fabulous interviews with both Tracy McBurney (CBS interview from 12/04/13 Grounding and Quality of Energy) and David Watson/Willows (CBS interview 20/05/13 Alternate Dimensions, vortex’s and Sun Calendars) where they offered exercises on Grounding. Often we think of connecting with the Divine and forget to connect with the earth. However, the earth is where we reside and grounding into the earth and connecting with the Divine Mother is crucial for our manifestation and creation process. The earth offers the best outlet to send the energies you need cleared. Our Divine Mother is the nurturer, not only of this planet but she can and will nurture and heal us when we invite her in our hearts.

Which brings me to balance; I believe that the last exercise we require in the morning before we rise is to balance ourselves. Balance has different definitions to many people. We can balance our chakras (energy centres), meridians or our body’s magnetics. Recently I bought an EMF device that balances wifi, cellphone, electromagnetic radiation and geopathic stress within my home that has allowed me to feel very balanced. Whatever method or technique you use, grounding has the ability to have a significant impact on your health and well-being. When these exercises are all done in sequence, it offers you the best option for setting your intentions for the day.

Being in a state of balance is about more than our energy; it is about finding a way to harmonize all areas of our lives. It is like the 7 of cups in the tarot, which represents, to me, how we can find balance in all the areas of our lives that we have dreams in. Often we desire a relationship, but forget to visualize or understand how a relationship fits into all of our life. Relationships play a much more important function in our lives as women then they do for men (listen to any of my shows with Thomas Campbell on relationships www.intuitivesoul.com/thomas-campbell). However, this relationship we seek may not fit into our career as a whole and may take sacrifice to maintain the relationship we seek. So, it is very important when wanting to create something, to find balance within all areas of our lives.

Grounding ourselves and finding balance within the chaos that exists on this planet, and perhaps in our lives, is Key to living a mindful life. We often are taken off balance when events occur in our lives or when events occur to our planet. If we begin with becoming present, then grounding and balancing ourselves, it can open us to finding a way to be in harmony with all areas of our lives. When we integrate living from this place of harmony, we become more aware of when we are unbalanced and can stabilize ourselves before we get caught up in the chaos. Living in this way enables us to take on the responsibility of our own growth, well-being and our spiritual evolution.

Now go walk barefoot on the earth, stretch your energy deep into the soil, really connect and breathe into all that living in the present offers you.

See more at: http://www.intuitivesoul.com/present-grounded-and-balanced

Monday 16 February 2015

What I learned in a year and a half of Frozen Shoulders



I’ve learned a lot in past year and a half. It started slightly earlier when I discovered that I had heavy metal poisoning. Searching for the cause became the catalyst to an intense period of learning about myself. First I began noticing all of the symptoms and effects like: weight gain, lethargy/exhaustion, itchy skin, Candida, frozen shoulders, hormonal changes, etc. Many professionals claimed they could heal me by uncovering the cause. They explained to me that it is the cause that creates all the mental, physical, emotional and spiritual effects and if my problems hadn’t healed it was because I hadn’t uncovered the true cause.

Engaging in this process and looking for the true cause of my symptoms lead me on an incredible journey of discovery. I uncovered many unconscious beliefs and patterns, deep core wounds and decisions I made as a child newly born and some still in the womb, and core lessons I chose to experience in this life from numerous past lives on this planet and others. I kept going deeper and deeper into my unconscious to help me understand why I created these symptoms in hope of alleviating the discomfort and pain. My life had felt so stagnant and I was hopeful that by following this process of self-discovery that I would find the answers I needed in order to move forward in my life.

Of course there is nothing like physical pain as a motivator! In the beginning, up to and including last summer, I had never experienced such pain. As time went on and I passed through the different stages of Frozen Shoulders, my pain eased; however, my motivation never wavered. I was determined to heal, fix, understand, analyze, control and manipulate my life to stop creating these symptoms.

I uncovered incredible stories and decisions I had made in the past that continue to affect me! Despite all of the discoveries I made about the driving force of my subconscious, not once did they appear to be alleviating any of the symptoms I was experiencing. I learned pretty early on that just changing my mind wasn’t impacting anything. Also, changing my focus from stopping the pain to focusing on Optimal Health and well-being wasn’t changing anything either. I knew that my focus on validating my outside world by needing my symptoms to be alleviated was definitely a part of the problem. I found it difficult to not focus on the pain or weight loss (things clearly outside of me) when I still could feel pain and my weight wasn’t dropping as quickly as I wanted. This helped me realize I was still looking outside for validation!

Therefore, after you try everything you can THINK of and there is nothing left to do, it is time to surrender! When we resist change, as so many of us do, SURRENDER becomes the worst case scenario option, reserved as a last resort. Ironic how it is our BEST option! So I was on a journey to surrender. Let go of my need to try and control and manipulate my conditions to be how I “wanted” them to be (Pain free and from a place of optimum health and well-being). To acceptance of where my body was. Sometimes supplements helped, more than often this appeared to be a time game, waiting out the body’s or Frozen Shoulders 18 months.

Maybe the cause lying deep in our unconscious or from our Divine contract isn’t any of our conscious business. Perhaps digging in the past to help us understand our present is just a distraction from being Present Now. Our life, in one way or another, often is not the way we would like it. Things happen. It may be in the form of frozen shoulders or extra weight we do not want but either way our body has a process to go through. Regardless of how much you learn or “do” or search, you cannot by the sheer force of your will or desire change what IS. Ultimately, it is how we respond to these events that determines our experience. We can try and be in control and try to change and manipulate things to the way we want them or we can surrender! When we get out of our heads and into our hearts and surrender to the natural capabilities of our bodies, we let the wisdom in the cells of our being lead us forward.

I may still have one shoulder that has limitations and pain, approx. 20lbs to go before my optimal weight, but I’ve learned a lifetime of valuable lessons this past year. It was all invaluable to me. And I wouldn’t have changed a thing!


Monday 9 February 2015

The Stories we Weave

This is one of the most important topics to date. Many people talk about changing our stories, yet, what are these stories. They are what we tell ourselves when something happens that we feel is personal. Like I’m stupid, I’m always abandoned, I’m sad, unhappy, and lonely… you get the idea (story). Our initial reaction is authentic. We may feel frustrated, angry, excited, anxious, or a variety of emotions that are valid. However, it is after our initial response that we have the choice to choose how to respond next. This is the time when a story is either validated or created from our past experiences. As many ancient wisdom teachings suggest, all events are neutral, it is our choice to come from a conscious choosing of our response or adding to our story and letting our unconscious reaction hold us prisoner.

This is an important distinction, knowing that our initial reaction is unconscious and valid; we then have the opportunity to evolve our consciousness by choosing to rewrite our story. Seeing the event as neutral and allowing ourselves the opportunity to view what happens as just something that happens and it is NOT personal to us. It isn’t about what someone else has done to us or that they are trying to hurt us, it is just an event. We can now choose to accept our initial reaction and be gentle to ourselves by knowing that it is perfectly authentic to express emotions. Every emotion is necessary and has a natural movement of energy that is beneficial to us. Anger expressed authentically can get us moving towards a powerful action, especially if we are in a depressed state.

However, if it builds upon our “story” of I’m angry because this always happens to me and we give the anger a story to hold onto, then we get stuck in the story of what happened to us. Yet, we always have another opportunity to make another choice.

If we can give ourselves the opportunity to feel and express our initial emotion of anger and then examine what happened, we can then make a conscious choice to grow our consciousness and change our neural pathways and create new ones. The most effective and simplest way I have found to do this is through using mBrainng. It shows us how to come from our “highest expressions” of our multiple brains and create new neural pathways so that we can change our story forever.  Then our stories become forever changed and our old storylines can no longer imprison us.

When our head, heart and gut brains are aligned and working together, we can come from a congruent place and entrain our hearts to radiate a powerful vibration and magnetize to us our deepest desires. Once aligned, they offer us the opportunity to become empowered and come from compassion, creativity and courage to follow our dreams instead of being led by our stories.

Let’s stop weaving “stories” and change the world beginning with our own!

Monday 2 February 2015

The Dream of Love



As we move into the month of February, it always brings up love. Or maybe it is just one of my favorite topics. We want it, want it to be better or are getting it elsewhere (this can mean a casual relationship outside your relationship, or settling for something else because you have stopped expecting you will ever find it!). Love is a complicated thing. Our media hypes it to be all about the beginning, the chase and the capture. Yet, rarely does it show the difficulties within a relationship. I’m going to have author Jessica Shepherd talk about two of her most recent books, Venus Signs and Karmic Mates, where we’ll get to the Heart of what Matters with regards to Love and Astrology. She has an interesting concept of planets in the 5th house showing our Karmic relationships. I will interview her live on Tuesday February 3rd and produced on Monday February 9th.

As I explain to my clients, relationships are a lot of work!! The media portrays the fairy-tale image of relationships and as if that wasn’t difficult enough, we live in a society of serial daters who are unable to commit. However, it is also challenging because once you “land” the relationship, this is NOT the hardest part. The hard part is maintaining the relationship. The hard part is staying balanced, committed, open and willing to work through your triggers. Our intimate relationships are our surest way to grow and evolve spiritually. They also bring up all the patterns that we continue to create and react to. However, this month I want to talk about the “Dream of Love”!

The dream I’m referring to is the most magnificent vision of love you can imagine. When you think about love, what is it you desire most? Think of qualities like committed, authentic, confident, and inspirational etc.. Often the biggest mistake we make is when we think about the “whom” we desire the most! This limits what the Universe wants to deliver, but it also holds the “who” in a pattern that they can’t seem to get out of. It also doesn’t leave us room to dream!! By thinking that it has to be just one person, we can’t see that person changing, and we stay stuck as well. Instead think about the most alluring Dream you can imagine! Dare to Dream about all the beauty that a relationship can hold. Dream about what a relationship can offer you physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Often when we are in a relationship, large areas of this dream aren’t being met. And of course, although we would like to blame it on the “other”, it is our own limitations that hold ourselves and our partner in a pattern. Because we don’t dare to dream!

It’s easy when love has gone, because we can start over, but we are still limited by our own lack of imagination for a better life (we may settle because we are too afraid of being alone or we may not trust again for fear of being hurt, so we reject everyone first). When we are in a relationship, it really is the same; we fear the dream, because we believe it means that we will have to leave the person we are with. Yet, if you can dream, and dream big, and be open to all possibilities, you can free both of you from the stuck patterns you are in. The only thing we can’t do is change someone else, but since the problem is never with the other person, it is only us that we have to be prepared to change. If we can change our limited vision of what the relationship is, then we can open up to the possibilities that are all around us.

Forget about whether there is or isn’t a person in our life, and just Dream about Love in all the beauty that it can deliver to us (without the media’s vision of a fairy-tale love that can’t exist) and envision how a relationship will complement our lives and know that it will push us to be better. Let’s begin to dream a vision of equality, balance, spiritually and emotional fulfillment in our relationships. Dare to dream of a partnership with someone that encourages the best of whom we are and the best of who they are so you will both flourish! Challenge yourself to find the courage to be open to love unfolding without setting it into the boundaries of our patterns and their patterns. Love can express itself as the Dream you truly desire, in the relationship you truly desire. Unleash your dreams and invite yourself to open to a relationship in your life that truly reflects who you are in all your infinite love!