As I
am considering writing a book on fear and after my latest Blog which tried to define
Fear – I feel the need to clarify fear and its relationship to
Ego especially since many ‘spiritual’ teachers out there believe we need to get
rid of our Ego because it is what holds us back from Becoming Enlightened. I
work with a different opinion – at least under our current evolution – we are
NOT in a place where we can just get rid of our Ego. We have a lot of growing
up to do and we have too much fear as a society that our Ego is the only way
for most of us to Grow at all.
So
let’s approach this from a logical perspective. As a whole we are still living
in a third dimensional world which breaks down through a process we call
‘entropy’ and becomes less … orderly. And what causes the break down in this
three dimensional world? Fear. Fear is the opposite of Love and it is Love and
its related kindness, compassion, acceptance that builds our world. And in this
world that we live in we each have an Ego – an Ego that mostly runs our lives.
Our Ego also is what pushes us to Grow Up because it is our Ego that is triggered
when we focus on ‘us’ instead of ‘we’ or ‘you’. And when we sense ‘fear’ in our
lives we focus on ourselves – and if we forget Love – we then experience pain
and suffering. So in the midst of this pain there is a positive side effect
related to the Ego and the value of having the Ego in place: If we didn’t
experience the pain and suffering that our Ego alerts us to we might never have
the desire to grow towards love.
In
this world where people are so focused on themselves – triggered by the fear of
maybe not having enough – there is pain and suffering and people try to take
what they can because there may be less to take in the future. So our world is
the way it is because we have egomaniacs that run our governments, our
financial institutions, our churches, our school systems, and our media (among
others). Egomaniacs know how fear works and build that fear in others so the
egomaniacs can gain from that fear. Our world revolves around greedy,
controlling, power hungry people who manipulate our lives consciously and
unconsciously. Our lives are manipulated by people who bring us ‘fear’. What an
interesting world!”
It is
through our emotions that we can understand our fears. How our Ego interprets
our fears are through our different experiences – which determine how we will
respond to each of these experiences. Our Ego determines our feelings and the
emotional response we have to each experience. Our Egos allow us to ‘feel’
anger, sadness and all the negative emotions and allows us to BE more conscious
of the negative emotions that define our fears. Example is: we would never even
know a fear of abandonment if we couldn’t feel the anger or betrayal that
abandonment often triggers. Our Ego allows us to feel these triggers and
therefore is an excellent tool to identify our fears. What we do with this is
what helps us Grow.
The
only way we can even begin to understand – and Evolve – our Ego is to accept
what our Ego does and why it does it.
Our
Ego also tries to help us by narrowing all of our experiences into just a few
boxes. Our ‘abandonment’ box holds every experience from the first time we felt
abandoned to anything that triggers feelings of abandonment, betrayal or even
anger – so that we don’t have to have many different boxes. However, that also
limits our range of happiness because we can go off the rails due to someone
triggering abandonment even when all they did was hang up on us or not text us
their plans. Since it is in the same box often our perceptions of what we felt
happened is not what actually happened but rather how we anticipated it would
happen.
I
wrote a couple of thoughts in my last blog about ‘fear’ that I believe is
related to the role of our Ego:
- That Ego
believes it is helping us with our fears through emotions that trigger
reactions to distract us from the pain our fears create. This is part of
what I was contemplating because we often don’t recognize our own fears.
And the pain/suffering that our fears create within us we often distract
ourselves with an addiction so that we don’t feel this overwhelming pain
every time we are triggered. However, we can recognize it and we can
either choose to respond consciously by identifying the cause and growing
from it or allow the addiction that distracts us of the emotion the fear
produces and zone out.
- Our Ego is
often protecting us. Often trying to understand the protection mechanisms
of our Ego is a puzzle that will assist us to Evolve. To do that we need
to recognize the addictions we use as distractions; the emotions hiding
our core fear and recognize the behaviors we use as distractions to keep
from feeling uncomfortable.
And
the only way we can even begin to understand – and Evolve – our Ego is to
accept what our Ego does and why it does it. Our Ego needs to justify itself.
Our Ego is part of our consciousness in this third dimension. We associate it
with our mind that expresses what we want. It often tells us what we want by
our desires to have something (or show us what we don’t want) – whether it is
something necessary or because someone else has it – it is often trying to
manipulate situations to help us or show us when we aren’t happy by what will
make us happy. It isn’t rational; it isn’t even conscious most of the time –
but helping us unconsciously make choices from those boxes it has arranged to
assist us to not feel uncomfortable. These are the boxes that distract
ourselves from our fears. Our Ego is the voice that shouts when we have a
perceived infraction to our ‘self-worth’; when we feel the need to justify an
action we took; or when we want to judge others by making ourselves better than
another. Our Ego is based on third dimensional reality, however, it can help us
Grow Up as long as we understand its intricacies. Our Ego may even be instrumental
in assisting us to evolve past the third dimension as long as we get rid our
fears – the fourth dimension is awakening from material to Universal
Understanding of Higher Wisdom & Knowledge (as long as our Ego could adapt
to its Higher functioning) and the fifth dimension is Opening our Hearts to
Unity Consciousness (where our Ego would naturally defer to our Higher
Consciousness – but remains as a guide for our emotional state by reminding us
if we slipped back to the 3rd dimension as our fears can’t be in
alignment with the 5thdimension).
With
maybe a bit of a better understanding of what our Ego does – can you answer
whether our Ego is bad or just misunderstood? I honestly believe that our Ego
can help us as long as we are conscious of the games it plays and if we are
willing to appreciate its abilities. I also believe 100% that our Ego can
Evolve its Consciousness as we Evolve towards Love. We need our Ego to help us
while we are in a very physical reality, helping to push us forward. However,
we also need to be responsible for the actions of our Ego and take
responsibility for our choices. As long as we are in a physical dimension we
probably have our Egos intact so let’s find a way to use them for our own
Evolution towards a more Kind, Compassionate and Loving World! Let’s do it
together!
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