Love is…

I like to term February as Love Month, but what happens more often than not is that we think about what is Not Love. What do I mean by this? We think about love in February because of Valentine’s Day, which means we are thinking about ‘romantic love’. And most of our definitions of romantic love are constructs of love dictated to us through the use of media and our experiences from our childhood that defined love. Both of these ‘ideals’ are inaccurate and often have nothing to do with love at all, but are rather a reflection of our needs and wants in a relationship. Which is to say; that ‘love’ is what we feel we need reflected back to us through our significant ‘other’ or from any intimate relationship. We are actually ‘in love’ with an ideal of what we believe we can receive from another.

We tend to search for ‘love’ to be reflected back to us in all the wrong places hoping for our ‘ideal’ and then settling for not being alone. But what are we actually searching for?

We are searching for someone to meet our ‘needs’, our conditional expectations that we have set and we have often come with a list of these needs. Yet the only way we can actually have these needs met would be if we met them ourselves.

We ask for physical descriptions, romantic notions, and worse: we ask for the very things we are lacking within ourselves. An example of this would be after experiencing a long list of men who had commitment phobias we want someone who is committed to us. A worthy goal. However, if we have had a pattern of men (or women) who couldn’t commit to us, it is more likely that we have the commitment issue and our partners are just mirroring it back to us. And why would we do this to ourselves?  It may be that we do not feel safe in relationships and therefore choose men who can’t commit!

However, this doesn’t mean that our mirrors are exact replicas; rather it means if someone lacks commitment we attracted them or requested a ‘soul’ contract so that we can learn something about our Soul’s path. When we don’t learn it, we get more opportunities to open us up to the learning our Soul’s choice for us. It may not be commitment that is our issue. It may be self-confidence or it may be that we are learning to love ourselves and in both of these cases having someone with a commitment phobia would be perfect. And something as ‘big’ as self-confidence or self-love would take life times to learn.

The point I’m making is that our definition of “love” is often based on an unreliable source, whether it is [1] a romantic sentiment created through our media culture that is an imaginary ideal that has no truth or authenticity as it is a fantasy that has nothing to do with love; or [2] our definition comes from our experiences of love, often based on our childhood and the patterns we have been repeating since then.

Love isn’t about meeting our ideals or giving us what we need or believe we need, like more romance, safety, commitment or “characteristics” that we often desire in a mate. Love is our ability to share, to give unconditionally, to accept a person for who they are and to take our needs out of the picture. Love is about the other person. Love is about letting go of all of our fears, beliefs and idiosyncrasies that we often blame ‘others’ for and about taking responsibility for all of who we are so that we can love others as well as ourselves. Love is knowing who we are and expressing this to another. Love is infinite without conditions, judgments, fear or resistance. Love is!

And lastly, our search for love has a motivation that we need to identify and understand so that we know what we are attracting and what our Soul’s purpose is. Our Soul in its infinite wisdom chose this life and all the circumstances that have occurred in our life to assist us to know love. All of our relationships are steering us towards our purpose. As I have said many times, relationships are what help us grow the most on this journey. Since we are moving towards love our relationships are all teaching us something about our purpose. So if we could view all of our relationships as a message instead of failure and look at what they are showing us from a ‘bigger picture’ we would be able to have a glimpse of this purpose.

What is our motivation for desiring a healthy relationship (either new or getting a current one back on track)? What are the fears that motivate us to desire love? What hasn’t worked in the past? And what do we feel we have learned through all of our relationships? These are all messages our Soul has designed to move us towards who we are and for the quest for Love to take us to all the right places.

I invite you to take some time this month and examine your choices and desires towards love. Know that everything is perfect for you to grow towards who you are and to express Love in its infinite wisdom. Love is something you share and give to the world. Find a way to express it and Love will find you!

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Discovering our Gifts

Wow. Another year has gone by. While channeling a message for our Heart-Centered Support Group I received a message that this year is all about uncovering our ‘Gifts’. As we contemplate who we are and become more authentic we get to step into our truth and we begin to see who we truly are from a perspective of BEing instead of what we Do. And what does that mean for us? It means that we are in an authentic state of BEing which is who we are – and this is our ‘gift’ to the world.

So it seems that this year – as it probably should be every year – the theme will be uncovering our ‘true gift’ and we may have many opportunities to rediscover this truth. Often we learn through challenges so remembering our ‘gift’ will make this an exciting journey and the challenges will not seem as difficult – as long as we are open to seeing. We may have many opportunities to see how we feel when we aren’t BEing our authentic selves but as we remember and share our authenticity with the world we will BEcome more aligned and will feel excited to share our ‘gift’ with the world.

Where we may experience challenges this year will be around the parts of ourselves where we aren’t being authentic. This year, since the goal will be to BEcome our authentic selves and share our ‘gift’ of ourselves to the world, we will have opportunities to see where we aren’t BEing ourselves. These will be the areas where we are holding onto suffering. Our natural state and gift will never be to suffer. Suffering is a ‘human’ quality and is caused when we are holding onto something that is no longer healthy such as when we hold onto feelings about past relationships or we hold onto emotions within our current relationships.

An example of holding onto emotions might be when we hold onto anger which is usually attached to a person or to an event connected to a person. As I have said many times: anger isn’t a primary emotion. So when we hold onto anger we have another emotion being completely suppressed. And any negative and suppressed emotion that we hold onto suggests that we haven’t forgiven that person. To ‘let go’ we have to forgive! We not only have to forgive the other person but we have to forgive ourselves. When we suffer – because we are holding onto unexpressed emotions – we can’t move on to healthier relationships either.

So I believe that we will be learning ‘forgiveness’ this year as this is the only way to truly let go and move into our authentic state to express our ‘gift’! To fast track this I suggest that you make a list of the areas in your life or the people in your life where you aren’t BEing authentic, where you are feeling the challenges, where you feel that you are suffering. Think of the people you feel stuck with: people at work, family or friends – people who you just can’t seem to forgive. These people will be highlighted for you this year so that you can move into your more authentic self. This process doesn’t have to be difficult – as long as you can forgive.

There are a number of ways to forgive people: putting yourself in their shoes, having compassion for them, or thinking of ways to be grateful for them. Think about the people on your list and apply any of these ideas on forgiveness. See how it works for you. And it is okay to remember that often we hold onto different grudges because there is a deeper core issue being triggered.

For me I have figured out that my biggest trigger is around not feeling supported. The people in my life who have triggered this the most are my family and I find it most difficult to forgive them. However, because not feeling supported is a very deep trigger for me it is not always apparent when I get triggered by that feeling. Once I can see that whatever it is that has ‘triggered’ the feelings in me is around ‘support’, I am able to consciously acknowledge my ego and my wounded inner child. Then I can offer the support to my ego and to my inner child that I have never felt from my family. And I can also acknowledge the support I have in other areas of my life so that I can ‘discuss’ with my ego that my belief isn’t true that ‘I’m never supported’.

Eventually, once we have truly forgiven from our gut – where our need is to feel safe – and from our heart – where our need is to trust – we will no longer be triggered the same way. For me it is an ongoing process!

Since this is a theme throughout the year I invite you to contemplate the ‘gift of yourself’ – the ‘gift’ of you without suffering, the ‘gift’ of you as a person who has forgiven others so that you can be authentic. As we move into the New Year how you would like to BE and what is your authentic ‘gift’ to the world? Once you remember who you are then practice BEing this from within yourself. Any time that you are taken out of this practice in BEing there will be something to contemplate. What triggered you to take you out of your authentic state? Who triggered you and what events lead up to you being taken out of authenticity?

And as part of your ‘practice’ in BEing take time each morning this year to connect with the Divine Spark within your heart, grounding it in the Heart of the Planet and then connecting it upward to the Heart of Source. This will create a space where you can get centered and where you can set your intentions for the day. It is also a space where you can contemplate your authentic self – and give forgiveness to those for whom forgiveness is required … for your own authenticity and ‘gifts’ to shine.

May your Dreams be realized in 2016 and may you have the Awareness to nurture this highest vision within! Happy New Year!

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Laurie Huston, Intuitive Soul, Intuitive Counseling, Setting Intentions for New Years, Clearing and Healing Techniques, intuitive counselor, Forgiveness, clearing energy, Happy New Year 2016, Discovering our Gifts.

Do You Feel the Holiday Magic?

Each year I share with you my message that I have always felt passionate about ‘the Magic of the Holidays’. And this year I’ve reviewed my blogs that go back to 2005 (LOL) to find some of the thoughts that have inspired me in the hopes that this will also inspire you to ‘remember this magic’. I have gone through and encompassed some of the best I have shared over the years and added some thoughts that reflect my current thinking and feeling about this ‘magic’. I also had a great conversation with Tom Campbell and offered some tips to grow towards love through this Holiday season (listen or watch here).

The ‘Magic of the Holidays’ is the incredible compassion that exists at this time of the year. When we are truly in the Magic of the Moment we are giving from the heart with no expectations. We feel washed over with joy – in just being. At the same time we remain authentic to ourselves and do not compromise who we are.

The ‘magic’ has nothing to do with gifts or how this time of year is typically monetized. It isn’t about whether or not we can find the perfect gift. In fact my new favorite quote is “the magic of the season isn’t given it’s found”.  I came across these thoughtful words in one of the many Christmas movies I have watched in the past week but I’m sorry that I can’t recall the actual source.

And the ‘magic’ isn’t ‘me-based’ and ‘what you can do for me’ which is how many people create expectation around the Holidays. It isn’t based on expectations at all. We often dread the Holidays because we want to change others to BE nicer and to see the problems with our dysfunctional relatives as being outside of ourselves and not able to touch us.

The ‘magic’ I refer to is within us. The ‘magic’ is remembering the excitement we had as children and the innocence we had at exploring new ventures and awaiting what new adventures were right around the corner.

The Magic is a choice we make to open our hearts and see the world differently. We can choose to change how we see our dysfunctional family and friends and accept them for who they are. We can choose to change ourselves on the inside first by focusing on how we want to feel this Holiday Season. We can choose to cultivate an essence of joy and radiate it from the inside out! We can find this. Inside ourselves. It isn’t ‘given’ because that might suggest that we ‘fix’ others… but it isn’t our journey to heal, fix or change someone else. Our journey is for us to evolve and grow spiritually! And our journey, and what we find on the inside, can be shared. It is shared by a vibration that we radiate from inside ourselves. It is about creating a connection to the Heart of the planet and the Heart of Source and it exists within our own unique Divine Spark. It is about what was told to Virginia back in Sept 21, 1897 when she asked the Editor of The New York Sun if there was a Santa Claus:

”VIRGINIA, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except [what] they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men’s or children’s, are little. In this great universe of ours man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect, as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.

Yes, VIRGINIA, there is a Santa Claus. He exists as certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! how dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus. It would be as dreary as if there were no VIRGINIAS. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light with which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.

Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies! You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas Eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if they did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that’s no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world. 

You may tear apart the baby’s rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest men that ever lived, could tear apart. Only faith, fancy, poetry, love, romance, can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, VIRGINIA, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding.

No Santa Claus! Thank God! he lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now, Virginia, nay, ten times ten thousand years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.”

How interesting that the message really needn’t change! The ‘Magic’ is the love, compassion, and generosity that exists – especially at this time of the year. It has the power to open our hearts so completely that we wonder how we have ever loved in the past.

However, to experience this we must move beyond our minds, our fears and pain, our egos… to a place that exists within all of us. That magic is the same piece of Divinity that is Source. It is our Home. It is what makes us all one. We have to nurture this Magic that exists in all of us or else we dull its magnificence. We dull it each time we are disappointed by the fear, pain and control that overtakes our lives. We dull it every time we give our fears more power than the “magic” within us and our lives.

That is the message I encourage you to embrace. To know, to remember, that the magic exists, we just have to hold it within our hearts. This time of year that magic is strongest and we can touch upon it… remember it… and we can rejoice that we have a touch of the Great Mystery within each of us.

Let that magic overflow in all you do. Let your heart remember what it always knew. Find your way to let the Magic nurture and foster your Divine Essence. And let that Essence flow out into your life, at this time of the year and every day of your life.

Remember the feeling of this Magic of the Holidays and make a promise to yourself to create Moments of Magic this holiday season! And you will be a part of the true spirit of the Holidays!

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