This has been an interesting month – many people are finding 2019 challenging so far. I have been excited and looking forward to spring and as I write this today we are just entering spring equinox. When considering the Canadian seasons winter, although often beautiful, is just too dark and cold most of the time. Once we reach equinox and have almost equal light to darkness (we get a few minutes more light at that time of the year) it is very welcomed – especially if it is sunny. What does any of this have to do with motivation? Well, we become motivated by many different things – for some of us it is shaking off the cold, short days of winter with the higher temperatures and enjoying the sunshine to motivate us to do spring cleaning – and of course stepping outside for more activities and focusing on a healthier lifestyle.
Yet often our motivation is
through our fears. We often want a healthier lifestyle because we have had a
health scare and we consider what we don’t want … like disease, excess weight,
aging symptoms or aches and pains. Unfortunately this fear-based motivation
isn’t a motivation that will sustain us through our desired outcome. Fear
doesn’t motivate us enough to change; partially because we are always focused
on what we don’t want. Whenever we are trying to change something within
ourselves we continue to see, feel, hear, taste and smell the problem. For
example: when we are experiencing pain we become focused on the pain and it is
almost impossible to feel anything other than the physical pain we are hoping
to alleviate.
Unfortunately fear-based motivation isn’t a motivation that will
sustain us through our desired outcome.
Also, our negative ego is often
engaged when we are motivated through our fears. Our ego uses old patterns from
our childhood such as the need to justify we are ‘right’, the need to think
that we need to manipulate to get what we want, and the need to fix the things
we identify as ‘problems’. Once our ego is engaged – and it is virtually
impossible to make a desired change without our ego – we sabotage our efforts
to change. We begin by ‘doing’ something that will often bring us full circle
back to maintaining the problem because our motivation is from our fears.
However how many people consider
what our motivation is for change? As a society we are prone to measure our
self-worth by ridiculous standards. Once we identify something as a problem –
it is almost impossible to not be focused on it as a problem.
Our need to make changes is a
worthy goal as we desire to Grow Up. But the problem lies in our intention and
motivation. Our Intention and Motivation often are a result of our fears – it
shows through the choices we make or whether we are judging or comparing
ourselves and our self-worth through others. We identify a problem and we
automatically consider what we can ‘do’ differently. This is our ego at its
best.
So where do we start? What is our
intention to change? What will motivate us to sustain change? Is it to Grow
towards Love or fall prey to trying to evade those things that are impressed on
us such as our fears or the negative things that we are willing to believe.
When we consider changing
ourselves is it because there is shame, guilt, humiliation, and anger – or it
is because we “blame” ourself or someone else? Are we thinking ourselves not
good enough to live up to someone else’s standards or the ridiculous social
standards that are really a way to control and conform us to their way –
whoever ‘they’ are?
Or do we just not ‘do’ anything
because it suggests that we are focused on the problem? Of course not! However,
we have to look at the differences between ‘doing’ which comes from our
head/ego and ‘Being’ which comes from who we are, our hearts and from how we
are responding based on our feelings. This means that if we can find a way to
BE happy, kind, loving, compassionate or peaceful while ‘doing’ what is
required to change then we are coming from a state of BEing that comes from who
we are. If we are ‘doing’ because we need to change and we are doing this
because of our fears – like blame, shame, guilt, anger, humiliation or
manipulation – then we won’t likely be able to sustain any of the changes we
desire because we will
be more focused on the negative aspects and this is hardly motivating. It
may seem like semantics or too subtle to make a difference – but when it comes
to motivation this is the difference between success and failure.
If we can find a way to BE happy, kind, loving, compassionate or
peaceful while ‘doing’ what is required to change then we are coming from a
state of BEing that comes from who we are.
Although a true spiritual teacher
may say there is no such thing as success and failure as everything happens for
a reason and everything is an opportunity to grow – I recognize that there is
necessity in our lives for success. We want to live a long, healthy, happy and
pain-free life.
We want to BE the best we can be
while living. And
change is usually necessary for us to experience this ‘best’. Change
is part of Growing Up. And it is so difficult to grow up if we are desperately
holding onto – as in ‘addicted’ – to anything that prohibits us from living our
Best Life Possible. And that which prohibits us from living such lives could be
anything that we feel we must hold onto firmly: sugar, drugs, sex, TV,
manipulating others to getting what we want and more. (This would be too long a
list to bring them all in so for further reading about addictions search for:
“Addictions to Wholeness” or one of my
interviews with Tom Campbell.)
So, what are you inspired to
change with the turning of the seasons? More importantly: what is your
motivation for changing? And since we are often guided by fear first – can you
discover a way to be motivated through Love while acknowledging your fears as
well? Can you shift what you want to change so that you can be motivated by BEing
Loving, Compassionate and Kind to yourself? Can you focus on how you want to
Feel instead of why you want to change – as focussing on why you want to change
may bring up all your fears.
Let go of the fears that sabotage
and Create a way to Live Your Greatest Life through how you want to BE! BE
that! BE Love! Choose Love. Always!
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